Do you ask or do you take?
Program looks at dating, relationships and sexual assualt
Ashley Reid
Issue date: 4/2/08 Section: theYARD
When it comes to dating and relationships, it is important to know what's healthy for a relationship and what's not.
The Residence Hall Association hosted a program called "Can I Kiss You?" last Wednesday in Harrison Auditorium.
Mike Domitrz hosted the program with a unique and thoughtful approach to dating, relationships, and sexual assault.
Everyone knows about the game, and what it takes to pull the right guy or girl, but Domitrz raised the question: Why not just ask for what you really want?
Of course when he asked the audience, replies from fear all the way to rejection came screaming out of everyone's mouth. Domitrz explained that rejection is not really feared by many if they try over and over again and control is not an issue if there is honesty.
"It's a little selfish excuse to fear rejection," said Domitrz. "If two people can talk about what they want, no one is losing control."
Sophomore Nakisha Midder enjoyed the Domitrz explanation of rejection.
"I like that he proved men aren't in fact afraid of rejection, but just try to avoid it," said Midder.
Domitrz also talked about roles in relationships. Traditional gender roles call for a woman to want her man to just know what she wants without her telling him, but Domitrz explained how tradition has many flaws.
"Tradition has taught women to play a certain role in relationships, so if tradition does not give you your full rights why continue to follow it?" said Domitrz.
After the relationship area, Domitrz moved on to a more serious topic, sexual assault. He explained that it is the role of the woman or man to ask for anything they want, because the worst thing that could happen is to get "no" as a response. You should always have the consent of the other person before any intimate move is made.
Domitrz gave a personal story of sexual assault, statistics on rape and educated the audience on what they could do to prevent it.
"I thought that was so cool of him to mention and share that piece of his life with us," said Midder.
The Residence Hall Association hosted a program called "Can I Kiss You?" last Wednesday in Harrison Auditorium.
Mike Domitrz hosted the program with a unique and thoughtful approach to dating, relationships, and sexual assault.
Everyone knows about the game, and what it takes to pull the right guy or girl, but Domitrz raised the question: Why not just ask for what you really want?
Of course when he asked the audience, replies from fear all the way to rejection came screaming out of everyone's mouth. Domitrz explained that rejection is not really feared by many if they try over and over again and control is not an issue if there is honesty.
"It's a little selfish excuse to fear rejection," said Domitrz. "If two people can talk about what they want, no one is losing control."
Sophomore Nakisha Midder enjoyed the Domitrz explanation of rejection.
"I like that he proved men aren't in fact afraid of rejection, but just try to avoid it," said Midder.
Domitrz also talked about roles in relationships. Traditional gender roles call for a woman to want her man to just know what she wants without her telling him, but Domitrz explained how tradition has many flaws.
"Tradition has taught women to play a certain role in relationships, so if tradition does not give you your full rights why continue to follow it?" said Domitrz.
After the relationship area, Domitrz moved on to a more serious topic, sexual assault. He explained that it is the role of the woman or man to ask for anything they want, because the worst thing that could happen is to get "no" as a response. You should always have the consent of the other person before any intimate move is made.
Domitrz gave a personal story of sexual assault, statistics on rape and educated the audience on what they could do to prevent it.
"I thought that was so cool of him to mention and share that piece of his life with us," said Midder.
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